Whenever your arms get numb from all that oil massaging your baby's body, delight your nostrils with the amazing scent of baby milk, baby skin and oil essence as they will be gone sooner than you think.
Every time some "well-intentioned" people, either neighbors, strangers or relatives criticize your small children's noise, misconduct or way of eating, remind yourself you did not had kids to use them as museum exhibits.
Each time you feel your head falls down and your eyes won't stay opened while feeding your child at 4 AM, gently whisper a baby song to wake you up.
Whenever your financial difficulties make you cry as the money won't be enough to feed something else than fries to your older child for the third day in a row, count in your mind all the things you have that money can't buy.
Each time you feel you would give up two months of your life for a night out and some whiskey drinks, enjoy how peaceful your kids look when they are asleep.
Whenever drops of cold sweat run down your face from all the lifting, turning and holding your toddler in order to change his diaper, have a good laugh by admiring his small tushy twitching and spinning, while trying to evade you.
Every time you feel like you are left behind while your colleagues attend new workshops, get promoted or conquer new challenges, remember all the midnights you cried in the office as you did not make it home in time to tuck in your children.
When you feel like cursing your incredible bad luck as you nearly got caught by one of your "sleep walking" rascals while trying to fool around with your loved one, be thankful his pretended tummy ache did not happen some moments later.
Each time you feel you are really going to punish your kids for life after knocking on the bathroom door every 5 seconds while you try to take a "luxury" 15 minutes bath, be delighted of how important you are to them if they need you all that much.
Whenever you feel lonely as no one calls you for days to check if you are still alive, take a look at your children and realize you will always have someone precious to share the storms and rainbows of life.
Every time you want to put your head in a bag and scream 'cause you got tired of putting their toys back, imagine how your home would be only a house if your children wouldn't be there starting tomorrow.
In all those moments you miss having a flat belly, but you can't exercise without crushing down from all the fatigue, get in bed and let your toddler bounce on your belly - you will have fun and exercise at the same time.
Each time you feel you could kill for 5 minutes of complete silence around you, amuse yourself by trying to talk as fast as you child does.
When you feel you are one second away from throwing out the window the bowl of mashed potatoes your older child refuses (after saying "no" to other three dishes you already served him), see in your mind the pictures of sick children laying on a hospital bed and being fed intravenously.
Each time you feel like fainting when seeing the complete mess in your freshly cleaned house, after leaving your small children with somebody else for couple of hours, stop being a mom and a house keeper for a second, become a child and enter whatever fantasy they invented that needed the home to be trashed.
Whenever a school teacher makes negative comments about your child's infinite energy, stubbornness and lack of obeying without understanding, before praising her concentration, thoughtfulness and sparkling intelligence, nod as if you agree with the critics, go home and encourage your child harder than ever in following her dreams and becoming better than yesterday.
Every night you lay awake feeling sorry for yourself, paralyzed by everything you can't do, can't have or don't know, learn from how your children start over with endless enthusiasm each morning, each game, each challenge.
Each time you think there is no way you can pull this off without losing your minds or damaging your kids for life, have a look at what you've accomplished so far: how healthy they are, how chatty they are, how open and sincere, how willing to help, how responsive to other's feelings, how determined to win, how decided to not give up, how noisy and smiling and happy they are!
Whenever you feel knocked down, crushed, broken, defeated, humiliated, alone, betrayed and hurting, raise your head from the ground and realize that if one of your deepest wishes came true, there must be a meaning for everything that happens in your life!
So please, keep your head up, you did great, you're a MOM!
Author:
Oana Rădeanu
Bio: I am a 35 year old female from Romania and I am in love with writing.
You can find my work here www.catchy.ro/author/oana-radeanu and here www.oanasimaicum.wordpress.com/category/english-section
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