When it comes to finding purpose in life I know that most people tend to focus on the extraordinary feats and accomplishments of others. While setting our standards high shows ambition, hope, belief and determination; comparison does not. This comparison we make with others proves to be fatal, for defeatist and results in true disappointment. By comparing ourselves to others who have probably been working all their lives to reach these achievements, we sabotage the incredible possibilities we all naturally have to create an exceptional life for ourselves, as when we fall short in the comparison – and we usually do – it incites procrastination and lack of belief in our abilities and what we could achieve if only you dared to use it and do more of it. When we believe that the probabilities of success are minimal or it is to very difficult task, we do nothing. Nothing changes nothing. You have the ability to make your life a better place and to change the world around you.

This is a long process which begins at an early age and continues throughout life. The belief that we are not good enough appears then. It is a very slow growth, but one so powerful that once it is deeply ingrained in our psyche, it proves very hard to change; and worse, we believe it is impossible. There’s nothing impossible, but what we keep telling ourselves. This self-defeating belief is also an energy from which we can break loose and release from our bodies. It is not only our psyche that plays against us, but our bodies too. Both, body and mind must be in tune in order to find the true purpose of the soul. The fact is that we have forgotten why we are here and what we were intended to do.

It is time to remember. All of us have at least one talent, something which in itself is extraordinary and carries our very unique signature. In order to remember and rediscover what it is, one only has to look at their lives. Your purpose is there, right under your nose and has always been. There is something that you have done throughout life repeatedly. Something to which you have paid little or no attention at all. Think of what actions you have taken when in the company of others. It could be something as simple as making the best cheese sandwiches or to make others smile.  As children, we all have the ability to smile and to make others smile with us. This is an understanding from soul to soul. When did you lose this ability? When did life become so serious? When did people stop laughing around you? The list of what people can do to inspire others is endless, perhaps your talent is in your voice and your singing makes others feel better, calmer and to experience for a while a different dimension. Are you are writer, an artist, an excellent chef? Think in practical terms. Do people come to you for counsel and advice? Are you the engaging voice that can charm an audience?

Right now you are one-step-closer to knowing your purpose!

This is something we have done with people and for people. It is very possible that you hide this talent from the world as I once did. Since I have the use of reason I never had a doubt that I ‘am’ a writer, among many other things. This knowing and the feeling that comes with it has never changed, but for too long I kept my writing secret and only shared it with a few people close to me. A talent that is innate must be explored, developed and shared. Not to follow and grow our talents eventually leads to a moment of regret when it is already too late to change it. By suppressing our natural abilities and talents we attract depression, anxiety, illness and a strong sense of worthlessness. But this is an illusion. Whether you are an artist in any discipline, a captivating voice or good at creating items manually, your purpose must always be something that we share with others in whichever way we can. There’s no point in writing the best poetry or having the most beautiful singing voice if others cannot read it or hear it. What you transmit in your art, and by art I include everything we do as individuals, has a very distinct voice, expressing messages that without a doubt will uplift and inspire others. Think and see what this is. There is a pattern. It has always been there with you.

To make the process of remembering easier, I suggest that you write your spiritual CV; the curriculum vitae of what and who you really are. This is written as any other CV: from the present moment we go back to as far as we remember in time. And you do this in your own style. Use your imagination, be creative and playful with it. Make it colourful. By the age of six I was already teaching and helping other children at school at the classroom teacher’s request. I have always believed that knowledge is something that belongs to everyone and should never be withheld from others and for as long as I have lived I always shared it with others. In most cases people believed what I shared, the intentions and the selflessness, in some cases they didn’t. We are not here to be believed or praised.

We are here to simply be, to support and inspire each other and to do our best. Your best has no comparison with anyone else’s. It is unique. Whether I taught others privately or I held a job, I always shared as much knowledge with others as possible. By making the lives of others around easier, I also made my life easier. We are all teachers and students at the same time. We don’t need qualifications for this, only the will to share what we know and have learnt in life. There is so much we can learn from each other. Sharing knowledge with others is never detrimental to the one imparting their knowledge. It creates trust, friendships, respect and love.

Sharing knowledge has become a sensitive matter particularly in the professional environment, where people withhold information from others fearing that they will do better and might represent a threat to their jobs. No one can do with your knowledge what you can do. No one. Let’s not forget that teaching and learning is also an exchange and that when we give selflessly, eventually we will also receive different information from others. Sharing your knowledge with others will also open you to a very different and unique experience, as you reveal your voice and distinct voice and understanding of life.


Looking at what you have done all your life, will give you an indication of what your true purpose in life is. Let’s not confuse life purpose with professional success. Success is when you uplift someone else, when you help others to find solutions to their problems, when you make someone feel better and through these actions you have improved your life, even if only momentarily. If you can turn your call, what makes your heart and soul dance into a vocation or a successful career this will give you a further sense of acknowledgement and satisfaction, but let’s not define ourselves by material means only. We are not job descriptions.

When you write your spiritual CV, listen to what others have praised in you. It is true, that most of us are too prone to find fault in the actions of others, but it is also a fact that throughout life we will find numerous cases of praise and encouragement to follow our qualities, abilities and true purpose. These are the moments we have to remember and reinforce in our beliefs, when you made others feel better in whichever way you could. It comes to you naturally. This is the expression of your soul and signs of unconditional love for others, as well as for yourself.

Let’s get our heads out of the cloud and return to earth. Let’s stop thinking what the afterlife is like, whether you believe there’s an afterlife or not. Let’s commit to our experience on earth and solve problems here before we travel to different worlds or different dimensions. And definitely let’s stop thinking that once we die it is over. This is just another form of escapism. The truth is; there is nowhere to escape. We are here and now and this is what we have to live and experience. Here and now.

The ability to make others smile and be happier, including yourself is still within you. Now it is time to remember what this unique talent is. Are you good at gathering people? Time to organise parties, bring chefs, musicians, entertainers and anyone else who’s seeking a human/soul connection. Are you good at crafts? Make chairs, tables, glasses, etc. Play music for others. If you cannot play in front of a large audience, play for a smaller one. Your music will uplift those who listen to it for a while and that moment will always linger in them. The fact is that you have touched the souls of so many and you don’t even know it. There are hundreds of people whose lives are better today because of you. And you do and did it so as to love and be loved, seeking a meaningful connection with others.

Remember those moments; remember the patterns and you will find your true purpose. Be the light of your own star. Not everyone on earth has to see it. If only the closest people to you see it, this is enough. And remember, when and what you inspire in others is an endless process. What you did for someone today, might travel as far as the other end of the world and you don’t even know it. What is it that you have within craving to come out? You are one very unusual CV away from finding out. You will then see that you are one true leader and that others, if only momentarily followed you as you inspired them. You already know this. Now it is time to remember and believe it. No one can tell you what your purpose in life is. It is up to you and you have to do the work.

When are you going to start…….? 





Author: Manel Blancomanelblanco.blogspot.com

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