Your personality might fight this (inner work) – but this is what your soul chose before being born in this life – Irina Nola
I was a boring, well-behaved kid, kind of naturally “drawn into” order, work and discipline. I was, in fact, bored in every sense: calm, reclusive, polite, living in the world of my own, with no desire to run around, play or do stupid things. My parents were very strict, of course, but there was something else. Even when I was still very young, I enjoyed that order and I was deeply convinced that it was the right thing to do: to know clearly what, where, how, why… I had no need to explore the world at all, to do something out of the ordinary, forbidden, to take risks. I just observed and drew conclusions.
As a child I was what people call “old beyond my age”, and, believe you me, I have no idea how I’ve got where I am now. When the people who are close to me tell me that I am unpredictable, capricious, disrespectful towards authority, and that I think not with my head but with my heart, that I take risks without any logic, I am again confused. Is that me? It’s not possible! But the results of my actions make that clear. I didn’t finish college even though I had all the qualities and opportunities to do that. I just couldn’t get myself to do something that was not working for me at that moment (instead of studying for the exams, I was collecting material for my novel). That is why only low-paid jobs were waiting for me. Those were the jobs I disliked and where I was most often denied my basic human rights (social, health care, sick leave), and I did not hesitate to point it out (the bigger the authority figure, the cheekier I was). In addition, I chose jobs not according to how much money, security and benefits they would bring me, but how much I would enjoy them, or, if I could not enjoy them, how easy they would be so that I could do more of what I really wanted to do. And what I wanted to do (to write, read, explore certain topics), I worked completely devotedly and meticulously, as if I was studying… Only without a degree.
Then, I left my unmarried husband when our baby was four months old, and I was out of work, without any income, savings or any material inheritance, and returned to my parents whom I experienced as my worst karma.
He has been a nice man, there was no abuse, I even suffered a lot after we’d split up, but I could not stay in something that became a dry formality. And I never regretted any of my decisions. There were days when it was so difficult and unworkable that I wondered how I imagined to go on, but the conclusion was always: it couldn’t have been otherwise. I’ve paid for my choices! Oh, I’ve paid them, all right! With the constant fear for bare existence, the constant high levels of stress, the material dependence on my parents. Am I, to be fair, spoiled, immature? Yes. Influenced by patterns, tamas, karma? Probably. Unreasonable? Hmmm, I’m not sure. I didn’t make any of those, in 3D definitely unreasonable decisions, on the spot. Before that, I was trying hard for a long time to change my reality, to reconcile with the other side, to change myself. And it always came to the point where it could no longer be. When you completely lose yourself. Your Ego? Or your Soul? I do not know. All I know is that it was always easier after such decisions. Physically, worldly, it was a hundred times more difficult, but I felt easier inside.
Of course, I’m aware that if you confront a boss in a country with no real order, you are fired, that karma intensifies when you are in any way dependent on someone, and that people who are actually good, will use your vulnerability to chase your story (in your life). And I was always trying to choose a more reasonable path. Did not work! Even if I was successful, essentially the same situation would soon occur, which would again put me ahead of the same choice. It was a real war within me: a war between what commands my mind and what screams out of me. The war between the ego and the soul? Or is the soul first and the ego second? It’s like sitting in front of a map of the world, contemplating which trip to take, and I say to myself: “Paris, for example, would be perfect, some decent hotel and sightseeing,” and then some devil in me decides: “No, let’s go to the jungle. I know the jungle is dangerous and stressful and uncomfortable, but I want to see the jungle.”
The devil, the soul, the ego? I do not know. I only know that that “something”, is always stronger and persistent to fulfil its story to the last letter, and in 3D, I’m left crying because my wishes never come true.
Author: Vesna Mišić, born in 1968. Leads one ordinary life in Serbia. Has been writing ever since she learnt to write. Publish two novels. Tried various spiritual techniques until Mohanji found her. She realised then that it’d be a long voyage and that she’s just got on board an ocean liner
In many belief systems, we are not human beings having spiritual experiences, but rather spiritual beings having human experiences. Before beginning our human lives, our souls created arrangements with other spiritual beings. This is to help us reach higher cognizance on the earthly plane. These are called Soul Contracts, or Soul Arrangements.
As we journey on in our life paths, particular people and relationships impact us more deeply than others. There are people we connect with on an impossibly deep level. The relationships that show us new sides of ourselves. Certain people challenge us to adapt to unique circumstances. As well as relationships that force us to re-evaluate our behaviors.
These people and relationships profoundly transform us. They raise our awareness and consciousness, bringing us closer to Unconditional Love and Light. They are the people, the souls, which we chose to enter into a relationship with before we were even born. These are the souls we opened a Soul Contract with.
The purpose of Soul Contracts is to help us achieve our Destiny. Our destiny is to experience the Unconditional Love of the Universe. Therefore, through our contracts, we are pre-destined to meet certain people. We engage in individual connections, whether they be family, friends, colleagues or lovers.
Each relationship functions as a lesson. As a result, we are moving closer to Love and Light. Actually, every one of them was chosen by our soul in a pre-incarnation agreement.
Although this may be true, predestination doesn’t prohibit free will. In fact, the power to choose is an essential condition of the human experience. We always have the option of whether or not to engage with these lessons.
However, will we notice relationships that unfold in the same way or failing to elevate us? Do we try to see the lessons in them and move forward? Or do we choose to repeat the same cycles endlessly?
Who do we enter into soul contracts with?
Soulmates, or twin flames, are a crucial part of the Soul Contract system. They usually exist in the context of romantic or sexual love.
Consequently, this relationship exceeds most others in terms of intimacy and depth of connection. These are often the most challenging and powerful contracts we make with other souls. This is due to the intense exchange of energies that takes place.
Whether Soulmate relationships are short- or long-term, we gain something from them. As a result, we can reach a higher level of sentience. In addition, we evolve with new perspectives on ourselves and the world.
The Soul Contracts we make outside of romantic or sexual relationships are no less significant or essential. In fact, these are often the longest lasting and most impactful contracts we open. Usually, you have a Soul Contract with your close family members and intense or long-term friends.
Their function is to challenge our preconceptions. To make us work through hardships and trials within the perspective of Love. When we fail to see the purpose of the relationship and don’t work from Love, we will repeat negative associations until the lessons become clear to us.
If we have a negative relationship with a family member or were hurt by a close friend, it can be challenging to accept that our soul entered into a contract with them. Especially if relationships have been abusive or extreme. But our soul’s purpose is always to further our spiritual growth.
You will have gained something in the process of the relationship. Hopefully, an understanding of your strength and perseverance. Not to mention, your worth and value. But also your triggers and reactions, of your cyclical behaviors and thought patterns.
This will prevent you from entering into similar relationships again. As such, it will leave you strengthened. In the long term, you will be ready for positive associations that will elevate you.
Often we have a Soul Family, a group of souls which we repeatedly re-incarnate with and enter into contracts with. These might be the people you feel you’ve known forever even though you’ve only met them once. They can be family members you feel especially close to or friends that fit like a glove.
Know that each of you is working for the betterment of the others. So you are all helping each other reach a higher level of consciousness and experience the Unconditional Love of the Universe.
Soul Contracts can bring healing, Enlightenment and Unconditional Love if we are willing to listen and learn. Still, it’s essential to have compassion for ourselves in those times that we weren’t in the space to receive the lessons. We are there now, and our Soul knows what we need.
Soul Contracts are entered into in the hope of connecting you with the Divine. This means every relationship has the potential to literally be life-changing. That’s if we can experience it within the perspective of Love.
What does this mean for those relationships? Every Soul Contract, even the ones which seem negative or harmful on the surface, is an opportunity to learn. We see how we better engage with ourselves and others.
Every relationship, therefore, becomes meaningful. Each and every one of them has the potential to be a transformative learning experience.
Enter into existing or new relationships with this knowledge in mind. Understand that everything about that relationship is really working for your spiritual betterment. If you can identify how you are one step closer to Enlightenment.
True spirituality leads one to his own soul. Adi Shankaracharya said:
Some walk with shaven head, some with matted hair, some with a switch at the back of their head, some wear saffron, some wear nothing. Please understand O Ignorant Beings, they are doing all these just for their own stomach’s sake.
Centuries ago, Adi Shankara uttered this eternal truth. It remains true even today. When man handles his terrestrial existence through his senses, he falls prey to such visual appeals. When the soul is guiding, he automatically gets guided to the right guru. In order for the soul to guide, one must bring the senses inward. He should watch his thoughts and calm his mind through observation of thoughts as a witness.
Shirdi Sai is one of the Greatest of Masters who ever walked on earth and continues to walk with his subtle body. If Baba is guiding, then there is no need to doubt. He will protect you from all mishaps. He will only guide you to the information or Guru, that is right for you. Just do not doubt or analyze. Surrender everything to Sai and walk the path.