There are only two feelings that lead us through life. Our decisions, choices and life are governed by one of them. They are mutually exclusive. These feelings are love and fear. Any behaviour that stems from our thoughts and emotions is controlled by either fear or love. When there is love, there is no place for fear.
Unconditional love is our true nature
Why is this so hard to understand? I bet every human being in the world says for themselves that they love (someone or something). Still, to love and be love, to live a state of love, are not the same. Loving someone is a conditional love. We, humans, let the reality pass by us through our acquired social, cultural and educational filters, and then we love someone because of, or we love if, or we’ll love when... However, to be love is a state of unconditional love for everyone and everything. This is the true nature of man. It is in human nature to be compassionate, empathetic, not to judge others or be judgmental, to be generous and kind, to love and be helpful without any expectations, to give and share with others what is abundant, to respect their own and the needs of others, to respect nature and all living beings without exception, never to express violence or do harm to people, other beings or nature, to show understanding and love without expectations.
Then why most people fail to express their true nature and are surprisingly unaware of it? Because a sense of mistrust has flooded an open heart that radiates love - the lack of faith that inevitably involves fear. As soon as people start questioning their intentions and the intentions of other people, when they start to evaluate and dare to judge others, when they think about or do evil to other people and other beings on the planet, including the nature itself, it is a sign that these people are driven by fear. This kind of people should be loved and understood the most. We should be a role model to these people and show them how to be light and shine brightly.
Fear is a software that can be redeveloped
Biologically, fear is the most stimulating emotion. In that sense, fear is functional. Fear motivates us to run away or put up a fight when our lives are in danger. Outside of this biological context, when fear acts as a driving force for our survival instinct, it is not beneficial in other situations in our everyday life. People are afraid to make a certain move and choice because they cannot foresee the results (fear of the unknown); they are afraid of other people’s opinions and comments, they are concerned whether they’ll be accepted, whether other people would like them, whether they will succeed or not. Then, they make assessments, manipulate, make compromises and stay forever in a comfort zone, the zone that does not bring liberation and peace. Seemingly nestled in an illusion of being in control of the situation and staying away from “dangers”, “challenges” and “problems”, we will very easily miss the opportunity to grow and develop socially, and will fail to achieve the spiritual growth of our soul, which brings us in the long run acceptance, detachment, a life full of peace, and joy.
The core of all fears - social, emotional and others – is a universal one - the fear of death. Fear of temporality and nullification. This is difficult to understand and requires major self-improvement activities and (probably) mentoring that leads to these realizations. It requires unconditional acceptance, first and foremost. Any act of resistance means non-acceptance. Next, this requires plenty of contemplation and removal of various blockages just to understand and realize this.
Only the next step can be a step into change. After all doubt and fear are dispelled, love will take precedence in its own right.
Why we shouldn’t be afraid of death?
Physical death is perhaps the only certainty in the world. There is no point in resisting it. Soul is the only eternal matter in the energy field called the Universe. Therefore, we, our essence and our core self does not die, they only change their shape when the time comes to replace that earthly body. Then it’s time for unfulfilled desires, promises and pledges from the life spent - in the form of new experiences yet to be lived, in another time-space continuum. To which extent we will be able to understand this, accept it as the truth and revive memories of events from previous incarnations is a matter of personal choice and dedicated self-improvement work.
Love is at the root of any healing
Love is a universal category. It is omnipresent, and not acquired during life, such as fear, for instance. The Creation itself is pure love by nature, and we are a piece of the Creation in the Universe. Nothing could ever be materialized without the presence of love. It is necessary to be aware, awakened, in order to be able to see a few steps behind - where we came from, what is our existence at this point that we describe as linear time and space, how the universe operates and who we really are.
The road to freedom
People survive trapped in their own fears, dysfunctional in their own anxieties. How to override it? How to leave the cage of constraint and spread our wings? Accept the current state of affairs, let go of all negativities, concerns and fears at all costs (e.g. an anxious person who stays home all the time because they believe they may be hurt if left the home – would leave the house even if that cost them their life. Once assured that would not happen so easy and fast, the fear will reduce). The next step would involve acceptance (the same anxious person accepts that sometimes people die on their way from home to work, etc. and that is something no one can do anything about, but that will not prevent that person from going out and having fun while existing here and now). Then, faith. To believe in life and our life path, deeply convicted that God or Source has the best plan for us and that our limited mind is not always able to grasp it. And what happens next is that one’s heart opens for self-love. Then come practical things – doing good deeds and sharing with others what we have in abundance or what we can give to others (money, food, knowledge, skills, time, etc.); then being in the great outdoors, observing the nature and learn from nature how to love unconditionally because we are all one (trees provide shade even to a logger who came there to cut it down – this is an example of unconditional love). Most important of all, don’t search in vain for the meaning of life and don’t despair over the fact that the meaning of life keeps slipping out of our hands. The meaning of life is the life itself. To go through every experience we have been given or have chosen to go through, with full awareness and gratitude. With this attitude, to accept everything, without any exception, both blessings and challenges.
When we change our mindset, our emotions and our world will change too. Namely, with the life we live we only describe what we believe in. Being one with God or Creation, unconditionally believing that we are loved and guided, leads to liberation. Freedom from fears and concepts.
Even if we have taken a diversion from our path and cannot see the light that leads us, it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t exist. It is here, one just needs to take a step in the right direction. One needs to understand that both heaven and hell actually exist on earth. Not to have a lifestyle with an aim to get into heaven or escape the hell after death. What would be the point of heaven and hell in the Kingdom of Heaven for us, beings made up of blood and flesh, if the matter “up there” doesn’t exist? When we die, we leave our body to earth, and the interpretations of heaven and hell we know are related to sensual and bodily pleasures or punishments and pain. Heaven and hell do exist, but on earth. In our life. One or the other. These are dualities that are the product of our cognitive attempt to describe the material world we live in. We can live both heaven and hell on earth, in our lives, throughout our day. It depends on what kind of thoughts we choose. These thoughts will cause an emotion. The emotion will trigger in us a certain behaviour. Every behaviour carries certain consequences. The consequences of our choices are the experiences of the life we live. Let's take a few steps back. It all starts there.
Author: Dejana Vojnovic